How to Avoid Wedding Drama on Your Big Day
You want everyone to remember your wedding day as a beautiful, romantic affair, not one full of bitterness and anger. Even if you have a family that is known for drama, it’s still possible to have a wedding day that is drama free. Here are a few tips for avoiding drama on your wedding day.
Think Small
The best way to avoid drama is to invite fewer people. The less people there are, the less risk that you’re going to have two of them who absolutely can’t stand each other and have to throw down at your wedding.
It doesn’t have to be a tiny affair, either, just small enough that you can justify cutting a few of the troublemakers in your extended family (or ask certain exes not to bring a troublesome +1).
Go Dry
Alcohol can fuel a party, but it can also fuel drama. People say and do things when they’re drinking that they wouldn’t even think of when they’re sober. It may not be how you envisioned your wedding, but maybe keeping it sober can help to prevent escalation. (And this could also save you money.)
Talk to Likely Offenders
Sometimes the best way to avoid drama is to just come right out and ask people not to bring their conflicts to your special day. This is a risky solution—it can lead to the person being offended and spoiling for a fight on the day of the wedding—but if it works, it means you can have the big guest list and wild party you imagined, without drama. You have to know whether these people are reasonable and approachable and if you are diplomatic enough to carry it off.
Get People Involved
Idle hands are the devil’s plaything. Keep people busy with jobs on the days leading up to and the day of the wedding, and they’ll have less time and energy to cause trouble. It’s best if you can make these real jobs, not transparently busy work designed to keep them out of trouble (though that’s what they are). This will also make people valued and feel that they have a stake in the wedding, so they’ll be less likely to want it to be ruined.
Designate “Enforcers”
You’ll have ushers during the ceremony—why not have them double as enforcers during the reception. Tell them about the likely troublemakers and issues and tell them they have to deal with it. Pick people who are discrete, understanding, and diplomatic, but also strong enough to stand up under the force of the drama.
At Stonebrook Manor, we have many tips and tricks—not to mention a wonderful venue-to help you make your wedding memorable for all the right reasons. For more information, please contact us today for a tour of our wedding venue in Denver.