How to Choose Your Best Man

When it comes to choosing a best man, guys have it a little easier than the ladies. Although there is certainly some risk of drama among the groomsmen, it can usually be settled by playing the Man Card: we’re all men here and once this decision is made in a manly fashion, there’s to be no hard feelings about it.

Unless, of course, you and your friends are sensitive guys whose feelings matter. If that’s the case, you’re secure enough in your manhood to follow the guide for picking the maid of honor, where we deal extensively with how to avoid hurt feelings.

If You Don’t Have a Choice

Guys know you have to play the cards you’re dealt. If your family insists that the best man has to be your brother and you just can’t think of a way out of it, well, that’s that. Tell your friends. They’ll understand. (Especially if the maid of honor is your fiancé’s ugly sister or is unavailable and they’d rather walk the bridesmaids down the aisle.)

Go with the Expert

A group of guys is like an elite commando team made up of specialists. Sure, each one is a bad mother-(don’t you say that!), but they all have their talents, and you all know who is who. Pick the most important of the best man’s duties (in your opinion), and pick the guy best for that job. If the bachelor party matters most to you, you know who can plan the most killer party. If it’s most important to you that you have someone to keep you organized and on time, you know who always has his, uh, stuff together. If you want the best toast, you all know who’s the silver-tongued devil for the job.

If necessary, you can delegate less important jobs around.

An Objective Standard

If you’re still having trouble, come up with an objective tiebreaker. Who’s been your friend longer? Who lives in town? Who knows your family better? Who has the nicer car for leaving the reception?

Simple. Straightforward. Cut-and-dried. Manly.

Put It to a Vote

If you have such a close-knit group of friends that it’s still impossible to make a decision, get them all together and tell them his. Then put it to a vote. Tie? Cut cards or flip a coin.

Once you’ve chosen a best man, it’s time to relax. No, wait, there’s still a lot of things to do. But you can make it easier by helping her choose the right wedding venue. For a tour of Stonebrook manor in Denver, call 303-557-2347 or email.