Groomsmen Do’s and Don’ts

Overall, groomsmen have it pretty easy at a wedding, but there are still plenty of pitfalls in this important role. Here’s some advice for living up to your responsibilities in style.

Do: Get Attire Early

Guys like to procrastinate. It’s kind of what we do. That’s fine when it’s just you, but when you’re part of the wedding party, procrastination can lead to problems. Not only is it going to frazzle the nerves of the bride and groom, but it may mean there’s not enough time to get alterations done, and you may look a bit of a fool.

Don’t: Forget Accessories

You may also look a fool if you don’t take care of all the little details, like cufflinks, socks, and proper shoes. If you’re not sure what all you’re expected to supply, ask at the tailor’s. They can tell you what you’re expected to supply.

Do: Participate in Wedding Events

Groomsmen are expected to attend all the important wedding events, including the bachelor party, rehearsal dinner, ceremony, and reception. Plus any others that are planned. If you’re not comfortable committing to all these events, it’s best to bow out rather than take the responsibility.

Don’t: Be Snarky about Marriage or the Wedding

When you’re at wedding events, be positive about the whole thing. No matter what your personal feelings are about marriage, keep them to yourself and put an upbeat spin on the whole event. And if you aren’t happy about the bride or don’t like any of the choices made about the wedding, keep your lip shut on that, too.

Do: Volunteer to Help Out

Although groomsmen’s official duties are limited, there are many, many things that need doing in the final days before or the day of the wedding. Let the bride and groom know that you are available to do whatever needs to be done. They may or may not call on you, but knowing you’re available will probably make them feel better.

Don’t: Be Intrusive

On the other hand, there’s such a thing as being too helpful. Don’t butt in when other people are handling their duties or responsibilities. And remember, this party is about the bride and groom—you’re not supposed to be the center of attention. Don’t demand that everyone pay attention to you all the time.

Do: Have a Good Time

Groomsmen are supposed to help get the party started. They’re supposed to dance with the bridesmaids to encourage everyone to get out on the floor. They’re also supposed to participate in events at the reception with gusto. Have a good time, and encourage others to as well.

Don’t: Get Drunk

On the other hand, if your idea of a good time means getting plastered—don’t do it! Your behavior reflects on the bride and groom. Be your best self. And if you really want to get hammered, there’ll probably be plenty of time for that after the reception wraps up.

Follow these tips and your buddy will be happy he chose you.

And you can help him even more if you steer him to a great Denver wedding venue like Stonebrook Manor.